Editor's note: A Tale of Two Weddings and the Myth of Humble Success

Over the weekend, two super-wealthy and famous Nigerian families with ties to the entertainment world celebrated the much-anticipated weddings of their offsprings.

The Otedolas kept things hush-hush in faraway Iceland. The Adelekes took theirs to the sunny glamour of Miami and to the world via social media. Naturally, the internet erupted. Commentators and pocket-watchers, whose own bank balances barely qualify for the conversation, began comparing and contrasting.

The Otedolas were praised as “classy” for their discretion. The Adelekes were labelled “loud” and “classless” for disturbing the internet’s peace with their opulence.

Here’s the truth: you can never win with public opinion.

This is the same reason humility, as we’ve been taught to practice it, is often overrated. In a world where everyone is fighting to be seen and heard, being “subtle” about your wins serves no one least of all yourself. The Otedolas chose privacy. The Adelekes chose visibility. Both are valid.

As an unrepentant aproko who didn’t get an invite to the Ote’s exclusive showcase, I’m grateful for the Adeleke’s open display it’s nice to get a front-row seat to someone else’s hard work paying off.

And here’s the everyday takeaway: In life, you get to choose your style. Keep it quiet if you want. Broadcast it if you wish. Just don’t hide your success out of fear of what others might say  because they’ll talk anyway.

Celebrate your wins on your own terms. Those who feel pained can simply… scroll pass. Those of us who feel inspired can continue to revel in the sweetness of our day dreams till the Silky feel of crispy notes grace our hands.

P. S : How, Dangote managed to attend two weddings from Iceland to Miami remains a mystery only money can solve.